Relationship Tip #6 – Put A Smile On Your Face

Over Tex Mex with my friend, Kirk, we got on the subject of what makes a girl approachable.  He explained how smiling at a guy is not only disarming, but it also is inviting.  I don’t know about you, but that sounds too simple.  A smile?  I would be inclined to take this a step further and say the smile has to be genuine because everyone, whether they realize it or not, can recognize the difference between a smile that comes from the heart and one that’s forced.  If you don’t know what I mean, smile at yourself in the mirror and really force it.  After doing that, think of something that makes you so happy and see the difference.  Once you get in touch with your genuine smile, add eye contact.  I’m not talking about intense, bulging, stalker-type eye contact.  I mean just looking someone in the eyes gently, for lack of a better term.  It could be described as a gentle gaze.  Most of the time, what naturally follows is the word, “Hi!”  either by you or the other person –  the quintessential conversation starter.  Take a look around and you’ll notice how so many people walk around everywhere with the worries of the day showing all over their faces.  Imagine how you’ll set yourself apart any where you go if you just smile.

Here’s a real-life example.  As I was walking through Whole Foods on 5th Street, I was recalling a really, happy memory.  So caught up in reliving every detail of that event – the outfit I was wearing, the shoes on my feet, the way the wind was blowing, the shadows of the trees on the ground and the black dog beside me – I took a deep breath and smiled as if I were standing in that moment all over again.  In fact, I’m smiling right now as I write this.  Walking through the wine section to get myself a barbecue sandwich in the back of the store, my thoughts were interrupted when a random guy hollered at the barbecue workers that he was buying my lunch.  Meanwhile, I was still making my way past the wine shelves.  I was going to the back of the store to get lunch for sure, but I wasn’t even in line yet.  Before I could clearly comprehend what had just happened, there I was sitting at the barbecue bar with my pulled pork sandwich and lemonade that this guy bought for me.  Crazy.

If it seems far-fetched, it could possibly be because it’s so simple.  Try it for a week if you don’t believe me.  I’m not saying that men will holler across Whole Foods to buy your lunch, necessarily.  What I am saying is that it will likely open doors you never expected.  Of course, the opposite is true.  If you’d prefer to be closed off from others, don’t smile.  Both work equally well.  I advocate practicing your smile.

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About Chrissy

Almost as much as I love 2-wheel sports, I love to write - mostly about relationships and dating. I am the author of the eBook, Irresistible You! 20 Principles to Attract the Right Man and my favorite, ongoing project http://hotmenhotspots.com.
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4 Responses to Relationship Tip #6 – Put A Smile On Your Face

  1. Mystt says:

    Totaly agree. I think eye-contact does it though, but if the smile follows that is pretty inviting. Still, and this goes to all the ladies, a lot of men still won’t approach you and not because they wouldn’t like you, but because they’ll get scared.

    • Chrissy says:

      You actually touch on something that I’ve heard many times from other men, “they’ll get scared.” That’s why I really admire and appreciate a guy who has the confidence and guts to actually approach me. At the risk of sounding a bit hard-driving, if a man’s unwilling to approach me I don’t care how cool or handsome he looks. I’m not interested. I find genuine confidence in a man one of his most attractive qualities.

  2. Mystt says:

    Yeah I think most women do. I wanted to comment on that “go it alone”, but since I invaded your blog in a few days with my long posts I decided to give it a breather 🙂 It is against net etics as well as I have recently learned hehe.
    It is all about insecurities people have in themself. That is why they fear rejecion, to not be accepted. Goes for men and women. You women also pick up quick if a men is just acting confident. And more women at once pick it up even faster, that is why probably it is so much harder for most men to approach group. (in reality it can be even more fun to aproach a group since women sometimes just joke between themselves and incorporate you in it,they talk about each other, everyone has a question for you and I personally don’t think 2 are harder than one. And many times it can happen that only the girl you aproach will talk to you and others between themselves so there is no worries)
    You should just take it easy have fun and don’t really have any intentions. Even if you see a beautifull lady that doesn’t mean she has great personality, so at least my first goal is to learn about that. Whether she is a nice and interesting person to me. It is hard to actually be “rejected” when doing that 🙂

    • Chrissy says:

      Okay, Mystt. You’ve given some great tips of the guys, but wouldn’t you agree that a simple way that a woman could encourage a guy to approach her is simply to combine eye contact with a genuine smile? What are your thoughts on how a woman can be approachable to a guy with whom she’s interested in talking?

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